Battle Between Gay Man & Sick Partner’s Family Highlights Lack Of Same-Sex Couple Rights
Posted by pozlife on August 8, 2007
by 365Gay.com Newscenter Staff
Posted: August 6, 2007 – 5:00 pm ET
(Indianapolis, Indiana) For a quarter century Patrick Atkins and Brett Conrad shared their lives including a home and bank accounts but when Atkins fell near fatally ill Conrad discovered he had no rights in determining the care or who would deliver it to his ailing partner.
In 2005 Atkins collapsed while on a business trip to Atlanta. He had a ruptured aneurysm and later suffered a stroke while hospitalized.
When Conrad arrived in Atlanta Atkins’ family directed the hospital to refuse him access to the ailing 47-year old, the Indianapolis Star reports. He was allowed by sympathetic hospital staff to sneak in after hours and after Atkins parents had left.
When Atkins was moved to a nursing home Conrad again was forced to sneak in to see the man with whom he had spend more than half his life.
Later that year Conrad filed for guardianship of Atkins. But the now severely disabled man’s parents quickly moved their son to their home and have refused to allow Conrad access to him.
For the past two years Conrad has been battling the Atkins family in court.
Legal documents obtained by the Star show that Atkins’ mother, Jeanne Atkins, believes homosexuality is a sin and refuses to acknowledge the men’s relationship.
In June the Indiana Court of Appeals ruled that Conrad must have visitation rights.
“Brett and Patrick have spent 25 years together as life partners – longer than Patrick lived at home with his parents – and their future life together has been destroyed by Patrick’s tragic medical condition and by the Atkinses’ unwillingness to accept their son’s lifestyle,” the ruling said.
But the court left the care of Atkins up to his parents.
The Atkins family has asked the Appeals Court to reconsider the visitation ruling. Eventually the case is expected to go to the Indiana Supreme Court.
Indiana has a so-called defense of marriage law barring same-sex couples from marrying and no legislation giving any rights to gay and lesbian couples. Socially conservative groups have for several years been trying to get a proposed amendment banning gay marriage put to voters.
In April the measure died in committee but groups supporting the amendment are continuing to push for it.
LGBT civil rights activists in the state say the situation in which Conrad and Atkins find themselves show the need for same-sex marriage.
Advocates of a constitutional ban say the couple should have had living wills to protect themselves and that the amendment is still needed.
“The problem isn’t the couple couldn’t get married,” Curt Smith, president of the Indiana Family Institute told The Star.
“The energy from the intervention comes from the parents’ disapproval. . . . They think it’s wrong, and that’s not something the law can address.”